Really? Napkin Folds Are That Important?


Wedding plans are humming along for my daughter’s July wedding. We met this week with her wedding coordinator, which her venue provides free of charge (a HUGE deal, which this MOB—Mother of the Bride—found out when she researched venues back in October). Her fiancé came along for the ride, just to see what was going on, and insert a male contribution to the process.


One reason I liked this venue (not only because it’s beautiful, as you can see) was that they do a live web broadcast of the ceremony (AND video the entire wedding and provide a DVD as part of their package—another HUGE thing since this can be outrageously expensive). Since we have several out of state and/or elderly relatives and friends who won’t be able to make the trip to Texas, being able to sign on and watch the wedding is a huge plus. We received directions on how to do this, and they are easy-peasy!


We discussed the actual ceremony next, deciding how to line the attendants up (by height), giving the okay on candles (yes, we like lots of them!), and selecting the music. Daughter & I had already listened to You Tube clips and had chosen songs for the guests to be seated, for the parents to be seated, for the bridesmaids to walk to, and for the wedding party to head back up the aisle after the ceremony. We also had back-ups in hand, just in case. Laura, our coordinator, will select a few versions of our choices (strings vs. piano, etc.) and let us hear these at the rehearsal to see which tickle our fancy. It’ll be open seating, so no bride or groom sides—so get there early for the best seat!


Food was a huge topic of the meeting. While the newly married couple will have a bazillion pictures taken, the guests will be sipping lemonade or white sangria (great choices for a hot July in Texas) and munching on appetizers (won’t give those away). After pictures are snapped, everyone heads to the reception hall, which is what we did. They’d already decided their meal choices from a booklet of about thirty pages (the groom contributed wanting garlic mashed potatoes vs. regular—woo-hoo—way to go getting in that male perspective!), but the venue will let them sit down in a couple of weeks to taste all their appetizers and the meal itself, along with a few of the wines to be served. This way, they’ll actually get to eat everything (since they’ll miss out on apps during photographs and they might be interrupted or too giddy to enjoy their dinner that actual night). They can make any changes in their menu at that time if they desire.

Choosing the centerpiece for the tables became another topic of discussion. I liked one where the candle and hurricane glass were lower. Maybe because I’m short and can’t see over centerpieces sometimes, but I do enjoy seeing and speaking with everyone at my table. Daughter let me have my say (She is SO easy-going through this whole process!), and we went with the shorter design. Other than reserving a few tables for family & the bridal party, everyone can sit where they choose, same as the ceremony. I like that idea much better. Assigned seating doesn’t always make for a great party if you’re separated from your friends. And if a few chairs get moved around, so much the better!


Laura showed us different lighting and shades of color within that, and we settled on something lovely. As RSVPs come in, we’ll discuss final placement of the tables. I’m sure we’ll take one out near the ever-popular photo booth and bar so people will have elbow room. I’ll be curious to see what props are provided in the photo booth. Maybe that’s something I’ll put on my “ask” list. We looked at the actual placement of items on the table—different colored chargers, the plates, silverware, and glasses from the iced tea to the champagne flutes for the bridal toast.


 I got tickled when talk rolled around to napkins. Laura said we could get on Pinterest and study different folds, but I advised Daughter not to waste a couple of hours doing that—just go with one of the choices then and there. One less thing to decide on down the line. Her fiancé seemed baffled. He knew he wanted napkins but had no idea the fold was so important. We explained to him that some Bridezillas fret about every detail, down to whether that dang napkin is in a fan or waterfall. Suffice it to say, a napkin fold was chosen—another check off the list!

We reviewed the schedule, from welcoming guests and introducing the bridal party to when the various special dances will occur to cake cutting and more. Daughter is deciding now whether to put together a slide slow for before the ceremony and/or during the reception. I liked the fact that they’ll round up the guests and herd us outside, where we’ll be given bubbles to blow as the happy couple departs. While that’s being accomplished, the newlyweds will have a last, private dance together in the empty reception hall.


 More decisions will be made, but we knocked out a ton at this meeting. I’m looking forward to what’s still coming up . . . and the actual ceremony & celebration itself.


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3 Responses to Really? Napkin Folds Are That Important?

  1. Cookie McCall says:

    What great fun for you – and of course, the happy couple!

  2. Kathy Hogan says:

    I am so enjoying the wedding planning updates. You and daughter have good heads when making decisions and knowing what is important. It is going to be a beautiful wedding.

  3. Rita says:

    It is such fun hearing the details and will be wonderful to share the happy day.

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